*fangirling over John Green fangirling over someone I also fangirl over*
Fangirling over you fangirling over John fangirling over someone I also fangirl over.
However, allow me to suggest that we all just calm down and appreciate each other as human beings for a moment…before continuing to flail.
I’m just wondering why it’s so bad to “fangirl” lately. It seems like people who are excited to see people they look up to or respect a lot are getting a lot of heat on youtube lately and I just don’t get it. I understand people can take it too far (I know what a sasaeng and anti-fan are afterall) but this isn’t true of all fangirling. Is putting it down now trying to stop that kind of fangirling? I guess, but all it makes me feel is ashamed to like a youtuber so much and ashamed to even want to meet them.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with fangirling. I just heard some anecdotal reports coming out of Playlist Live of people following creators into bathrooms with cameras, camping outside their hotel room doors, pushing and shoving to get access, and generally being not-awesome.
That’s way beyond fangirling, but sometimes people don’t get that. I want us to remember that we’re all people, on both sides of every interaction.
I am extremely honored that people get excited about seeing me, and their excitement makes me excited and it’s wonderful. 99.99999% of those interactions have been overwhelmingly positive…some of those moments have been the best of my life. But there’s a line, and if you forget that people are people, it’s easy to cross it.
It’s also important to remember that that line can be crossed from either side, sometimes creators likewise forget that their fans are people, and they don’t treat them with respect…I have even more contempt for that.
So yeah…never be ashamed of your enthusiasms…fangirling is for everyone and there’s no shame in it. You should have seen me when I met Neil Gaiman in New York…i was USELESS!
My major question: why has ‘fangirling’ (or ‘fangirl’) become the term for this, no matter what the person’s gender? I get that it’s internet lingo, and maybe I’m over-thinking this, but it’s bugged me ever since my roommate pointed out that Tyler Oakley’s blog description dubbed himself a “professional fangirl”…as if “fanboy” isn’t an existing term (It is. there’s a whole movie named after it.). But…when a guy calls himself a total fangirl, is that saying massive excitement and flailing and generally losing your ability to even is, like, a female associated state of being? Feminine? Is fanboy too closely associated with comic books/Star Wars/etc to be used for general purposes? Genuinely curious here.
First off I am the roommate of which she speaks and I agree with what she says. This term really bothers me. I have no problem with people using it if they are female or even identify as female, but the fact men are adopting this term is unfair and degrading. How come men can’t be be fanboys when many so clearly are? Becoming overly excited and obsessed is not a gender specific trait, so please let’s start using gender neutral terms or ones that at least apply to you.
I am a fangirl for many things and I don’t resent the term on a whole I just resent it’s severe misuse and trivializing that I think it does to my gender.